Why don’t people listen?

Why don’t people listen?

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Why is that people don’t want to listen to what you have to say? Are they so caught up in their lives and what they have to say that they don’t even realise that you are talking.

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”

— Ralph Nichols

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I have had this experience so many times that it has helped to make me a better listener which is really helpful as a Medical Intuitive Practitioner and Teacher.

“One friend, one person who is truly understanding, who takes the trouble to listen to us as we consider a problem, can change our whole outlook on the world.”

— Dr. E. H. Mayo

It is amazing how some people can not see what they are doing and then say that they have been told they are great listeners.  Do they understand how frustrating it is to have them ask a question and when you start answering they carry on as though you never started?  Do they know how angry you get because you feel as though you have nothing important to say and are not worthy of listening to.

“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.”

— M. Scott Peck

I have learnt over time that it is not about me at all and it is always about them.  It has been a very hard lesson for me to learn as I used to take everything personally, feeling very hurt and worthless.

How then do we learn to listen to people?

  • Being quiet and letting the person talk is the first step.
  • Don’t think about your reply. Instead just listen to what they are saying/
  • Repeat what they have said back to them in a shortened version such as “What you are saying is…………”
  • If you don’t want to hear what someone has to say then don’t ask questions.
  • Understand that what you do and say can really affect the other person.

Listening is such an important skill to have and it can make all the difference to the person you are listening to.

Dear Sugar. I am saying goodbye

My dear sugar we have had such a lovely relationship since I was young. I remember hiding you in my bedroom so I could have you whenever I wanted. Oh the joys of late night munchies. Do you remember the night that we stayed up all night watching movies? You were so good to me and kept me awake all night. What about the dinner party with our friends and the fun we had picking which of you we wanted out of the pack?

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I have so enjoyed you for so long and we have shared some great times with our family and friends. I wonder at times why I had to wake up and realise that it just wasn’t possible to have a relationship with you anymore. It has been devastating to know that I have to divorce you for my own good. There are times I wonder whether I should continue my relationship with you as it has been so great. Then something happens to remind me of why we have to divorce.

Now I am crying as I don’t want to divorce you. Crap. I don’t like the tears as it messes up my face. Okay time to sort my face out. I will be back.

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Okay. Now I am back so no more going down memory lane. I remember when I first started learning about sugar and what it does to the body I was angry as I did not want to hear the message. I have been in denial for many years now as I enjoyed what the sugar was doing for me.

As time has gone by I have slowly lessened my relationship with sugar although I have had many set backs and I have loved gorging myself on sugar especially Magnum Ice creams and Cadbury Blocks, family size of course.

I recently had a week away where I only had sugar a couple of times and then when I came home I didn’t have any for a couple of days. I was feeling great and then saw a soft drink in the fridge and thought oh well I can have that to help get rid of all the sugar in the house.

Well heck. The reaction was instant. I didn’t know what hit me. I was immediately angry, fed up, peeved off to put it nicely and everything bothered me. I later realised that my sense of balance and depth perception was out as I was running into things that normally I wouldn’t.

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I really couldn’t believe the reaction I had to sugar. I was absolutely dumbfounded. I had recently repeated the Medical Intuition Modules I to IV which help you to understand the body in a metaphysical way. Because I repeated the courses I was even more open to what my body was telling me which is why I had the reaction that I did.

It was great to have these reactions as it helps explain why unnatural sugar is not good for the body. For anyone that is waking up and wanting to improve their life sugar is definitely a no no as it helps to keep you unconscious in regards to thoughts and hearing your body talk as well as feeding all the stories you have. The stories could be “I am not good enough”, “No one will love me”, and any other story that you can think of.

To understand what unnatural sugar does to the body we can look at it metaphysically and physically.  My wonderful Medical Intuitive Teacher Jean Sheehan has written a wonderful article about the pancreas and the following is a small section of it.

“THE MEDICAL INTUITIVE MEANINGS OF THE PANCREAS”

           ” The pancreas is very important on a metaphysical level as it is referred to as the subconscious brain. Who would have thought that by having sugar this organ will totally change your perception and create a world of ‘negative perception’ and block your creativity? This endocrine metabolises sugar in the blood stream however when an individual has sugar, it keeps the mind in at state of limbo and disconnected to the God within and the higher brain or known as the higher self can not get through. The sugar seems to block the connection between the two hemispheres of the brain and the bridge between the conscious and subconscious brains  – intuition.”
Sugar can create anger in some people as it did me as well as affecting the moods in people. “This moodiness is the change on a metaphysical level where the emotion anxiety is triggered. Then the children react in fear, the outcome arguments, and unexplained perceptions from teenagers from parental comments and more. The anger is stirred as the sugar goes to the liver – organ of anger”. Copyright Jean Sheehan 2013 www.absoluteempowerment.com
Understanding what sugar does in my body helps me to understand why it had such a dramatic effect on me when I hadn’t had sugar for a few days. I understand why I felt angry so quickly which is due to the fact that I was working on a higher vibration and then to have sugar I crashed really quickly and was then working with the lower chakras. This is why I had the reaction that I did and why when I have sugar my day does not go as well as expected.
I am so much more aware of what sugar does to my body and am now able to use all the tools, skills and knowledge that I have learnt through the courses to be able to move through the emotions and moods very quickly. Understanding the other areas that are affected and why was important to me so that I could then use everything that I had to bring my body back into alignment so that I am then able to continue though the day with harmony.
I am far from perfect and I have had sugar since coming back a month ago except I am now more aware which makes it easier. Why not experiment yourself and see what happens. You may be amazed at what happens I your body. You can read the full article here http://www.absoluteempowerment.com/the-pancreas.php